Boundaries and borders give groups their shape. A group has a skin.
People bounce between a fear of being abandoned by the group and a fear of being devoured by the group.
Witnessing harassment can amplify the fear of being expelled from/consumed and destroyed by the group. The possibility of harassment/discrimination is integral to group experience and self-understanding within a group.
A sense of self does not precede the group; the self takes shape within the group.
In what therapists might call a “sick group,” people will shelter themselves by seeking proximity to what they experience as power, by making themselves invisible and/or by bargaining with the bully.
Groups are haunted.
We are complicit in harassment dynamics.
Most draw a false equivalence between harasser and harassed.
White supremacist thinking is paranoid.
White supremacy is sexist.
People sexualize what they hate and fear.
People racialize that they hate and fear.
Hate and desire can be at the same place at once.
The nation is a sick group.
Anti-harassment work challenges the group’s relationship to its own boundaries.
Anti-harassment work is sex work.